Tadka. This is a Hindi word. This means tempering while cooking foods, especially Indian. Since it’s exposure to my mind, I have always taken special care while doing it. Those who are hearing this word for the first time, let me explain. In a vessel or tempering spoon, cooking oil is heated. As soon as the mustard seeds are added, they start crackling. Some even jump out of the vessel. Then spices like cumin seeds, turmeric, etc. are added. The crucial step is adding mustard seeds when the oil is hot. Here comes the main subject of this article.
I have always been scared of this step as I said, mustard seeds crackle on entering the hot oil. Along with a few of them flying here and there, some oil particles also scatter around the vessel. Chances are they might reach a part of your face, neck, or hand. If you are wearing a sleeveless dress, then even your shoulders.
I am not ashamed to admit this.
The fear of the oil particles causing scars on my face, or a flying mustard seed sticking on my skin scares me, to date. I take extreme care of my skin during this process. Now, I have seen my mother, sisters, and friends performing this process without a sign of fear or pain. They put oil into Kadai. As soon as it becomes hot, mustard seeds are added. They crackle, scatter a little bit, and oil particles fly. But their expression is zero. My question is why?
Why do we choose to tolerate this pain? Even though it is very minor or momentary, still why? I have a firm belief, that those who have developed this tolerance, have done so in other fields of their lives too. For example, one can easily get used to tolerating disrespect, dominance, and frustration of others.
My shoutout to all those,
who train others to cook food. Please don’t laugh at someone who is scared to give tempering to foods. Refrain from convincing them to hide their pain and go on as if nothing happened. If one is scared of this process, allow them to use a long handle spoon or maintain a little distance while doing the step. Don’t start mocking them by saying, “You can’t tolerate this much also. Very bad.” Or “It’s a girl’s daily job. Get used to doing it without any expression on the face or showing even a trace of fear on it.”
What are you conveying by the above statements? You are giving a straight message, ‘Tolerate’. When this tolerance goes to a higher level later in life, don’t be surprised. Such people can become victims of trauma because they chose to keep quiet and not tell someone about the matter. Having courage is a different thing. Tolerating pain is different. Do not present the combination of both to your children on a plate of life lessons.
I had seen a reel of a cook recently.
She maintained distance while giving the tempering to the oil saying, I am not fond of scars on my face or skin. It surprised me to see one in thousands say this without inhibitions. Once a habit, always a habit. So refrain from developing the wrong ones. Tempering while cooking foods, especially Indian is a common process. Let the learners perform it naturally, without becoming heroes, who can tackle anything. Let them know expressing themselves is not wrong. Getting scared is absolutely fine. Tadka will add flavor to the food for sure, but take care of your skin first. Normalise expressing pain, not hiding or masking it.
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Thanks … thanks… thanks for your love and encouragement😘