Recently I had a close association with cats. In the span of the time period I spent with them, certain traits of theirs amused me to a great extent. The lessons which these four legged furry animals teach us knowledgeable humans are just out of this world. Self respected, practical, self lovers and most important wise.
I would love to talk about the female cats first, undoubtedly the centre of of my article. After reaching two months age, female cats get in heat. Meaning, they need mates. Now this heat can last from three days to a week. For getting a male cat’s attentions, they mew aloud, purr and need pampering. They allow males to pamper them, and care for them.
as soon as they are out of heat, their behaviour takes a 360 degree turn. If any male tries to get near them, even by mistake, he invites fury in person. The female cats can scratch a male who is crossing his border line in addition to a friendly lick. This scratch is not a simple one, it can lead the male’s skin to bleed. The female hisses warning the male to stay at safe distance. If he understands the warning, he is safe. Or else he has to face the fury of the female.
In short, if the female says ‘no’, she means ‘no’. I so wish the human male gender also can understand a ‘no’ from the female. Unfortunately, he takes this no for granted many a times, and mishaps take place. If the women were blessed with sharp claws like that of a female cat, the man would dare not touch her forcibly or misbehave. But there is a thing to learn from these graceful female cats. If you wish to say no, just demonstrate. How to do it, is a call women/ girls need to take.
Now, let us study mother cats.
When the kittens are newborn, she keeps them well fed and so clean, one would think they had a bath. But its the magic of their mother which keeps them clean and cute looking as well. The twist comes when around 6 weeks pass.
The mother notices the kittens are moving around and slowly becoming independent. She reduces feeding of her milk and gradually switches to bringing other foods. For example a supplement of fish or meat piece. As and when they switch over to maximum of these foods, she starts distancing herself from them.
Not because she is careless, but she needs them to be independent and strong. She stops being next to them, being available to them so that the ties slowly break loose. She shows up once a while now so that they are used to her absence. Once she is sure that they can feed themselves by obtaining their own food, she might disappear completely from their lives. ‘No strings attached’ is the motto female cats follow honestly.
But I have observed
human mothers carrying the heavy school bags of their kids till grade 10. Sadly the kids don’t care if their mom carries a 20 kg or 30 kg bag. The simple reason being, the mother herself doesn’t mind doing these works for them. Later also when the child starts going to college and then for work, there are mothers who give the coffee mug in their hands, spoiling their habits and making them dependent, on her.
After all it is a mother’s heart, right? Give me a break. Are these mothers imparting self discipline and dignity of labour in their kids? Sadly no. Motherhood is not just blindly showering love on the kid but also to teach him/her independency, self respect and self care. Definitely female cat mothers teach these to their kittens.
I won’t deny
that cats are known for their selfish nature. They are not loyal like dogs. But certainly we can take something good from them.
Finally as I conclude this article, let me highlight what we humans can learn from the feline community. Unless we take care of ourselves, we cannot do it for others. Love your children, but do not make them handicap and dependent on you. Teach them to survive in this world fearlessly with heads held high. Last but not the least, teach your daughters when you say ‘no’, clearly demonstrate it through your words as well as actions. No doubt the heading of my article says ‘wisdom of cats’. You agree?